My identity 🤔

 

                          

Hi, today I’m confused about what to write regarding my career — or maybe I’m confused about my identity.

I am an engineer.
I am a digital marketer.
I am a housewife.
I am a mother 👩

And yes, the last one is the most challenging and meaningful role of my life. Today, my strongest identity is that I am a mother. This Mother’s Day, I don’t want recognition for working for myself — I want to acknowledge that right now, I work for my child. That is my full-time responsibility, my priority, and my heart.

People often say women are multitaskers. But honestly, I don’t see myself that way. I am not someone who can do everything at once. If life gives me too many roles at the same time, I feel I cannot do justice to all of them. I just want to be fully present in whatever I choose to do.

When I was studying, I wanted to become an engineer so I could earn well and build a stable career. But I didn’t get the right opportunity. Later, I struggled and stepped into digital marketing. During my engineering days, I didn’t give my full effort — but in digital marketing, I gave my 100%, and I achieved success there.

Then I got married. I tried working for a year after marriage, but I failed in that job and was eventually fired because I couldn’t contribute enough ideas. That phase broke my confidence.

Soon after, I became a mother and a housewife. I have dreams of starting something of my own, but I’m not getting much support. And since I don’t consider myself good at multitasking, I feel I can’t manage both career and home perfectly at the same time.

So today, my identity feels simple: I am a wife and a mother.

But maybe that’s not the end of the story.

Maybe identities are not permanent labels — they are phases. Engineer was a phase. Digital marketer was a phase. Employee was a phase. And now, mother is my phase. None of them cancel the other. They are all parts of me.

Being a mother doesn’t erase my skills. Being a housewife doesn’t remove my ambition. Taking a pause doesn’t mean the journey is over.

Maybe right now, I am growing in a different way.

And maybe one day, when the time feels right, I will grow again — not because I have to prove anything, but because I want to.

That’s it.