Hello guys,
This is a very sensitive issue these days — dowry in marriage. Why are we not enough for each other that our parents have to give something in marriage, which sometimes even leads to the end of someone’s life? Isn’t a girl herself enough for people? I’m not judging anyone, but the question is: is money more important than someone’s life?
When we meet each other before marriage, whether in a love marriage or an arranged marriage, what do we usually talk about? Our hobbies, ambitions, and past life. But do these things actually matter after marriage? They help us understand each other, but are they enough to make such an important life decision? Do we really discuss serious issues before marriage? I know I’m no one to tell you what to discuss before marriage. I’m not a marriage counsellor, but we should at least talk about such issues so that we don’t continue hearing these kinds of heartbreaking news stories.
In love marriages, we usually get more time to talk and understand each other. But in arranged marriages, we often get only 2–3 meetings and a few phone conversations to know someone. I have also gone through this process. But I’m blessed to have the best husband and in-laws in the world. They have given me so much comfort and love that I feel truly thankful and grateful for them. Coming back to arranged marriages, I believe people should take more time, communicate openly, and think carefully before making such important decisions.
Money is just a need, but relationships matter much more. If even one person in a family takes a stand against the ritual of dowry and clearly says that they do not support it, then so many girls and their families can be saved from pain and pressure. This issue is not about any particular caste or person. It is about all of us and our society becoming more progressive. We can manage with less if we give love and respect to each other.
We are not buying someone to marry us at the cost of money and demands.
Feel free to share your thoughts on this issue.
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